Throughout dating literature and countless conversations amongst single women, it seems to be the general rule of thumb that men should be the initiators of every step of the dating process - from the first conversation, to the first date, to the first kiss and so on.While it’s true that the dynamics between each coupling are different and should be treated as such, I fear that many eligible women are missing out by going radio silent.In order to help you unpack some of the preconceived notions and deep-seated fears that led you to your wallflower status, here are some common reasons women hold back – and how you can adjust to become a more proactive dater who gets men to pursue you WHILE staying in your feminine role.
My guess is that you can, but are just now realising that those were opportunities after being blinded by that ever-present defence mechanism.
Luckily, the first step to solving this problem is recognising that you have it.
(Obviously smile, ladies; a quick .012 second half-smirk will not cut it!
) If you’ve been talking to a man in a friendly context but are interested in taking it further and sensed he may feel the same way, get a little flirtatious and see how he responds.
READ MORE: Need help mastering those flirting skills? The fear that simply initiating interest will immediately give the man the upper hand in the relationship and put your delicate feelings in his hands is a strong and often valid one.