Keep questions and conversation to present and future tense as much as possible, she recommends. Facing forward invites your date to project and talk about what you want to do together in the future as opposed to focusing on the past—which was clearly not together.” And for more great dating advice, here are 30 things women always love to hear. “In order to find a relationship, you need to be honest about yourself. On the first date, the goal is to peel back a layer or two—maximum—about yourself.
Share your values, your background that shaped those values, and some of your interests.
“First and foremost, it feels like you are hiding something,” she explains.
“It also feels very off-putting if you ask someone a question, they punt back and ask you the same one, and you refuse to answer it.
The key here is to learn to balance your IQ with your EQ. Invite your date to open up about themselves through your thoughtful and poignant conversation.