Not only has she produced an entire book on the subject (The Flirt Interpreter), but she runs ‘Flirtology’ courses. There’s a two-session Quick Fix for £299; a three-session promotion called Bag A Babe For Valentine’s (‘babe’ referring to either sex) at £399; and a three-month Ready For Change programme at £900.
“I could have dealt with a gambling addiction or alcoholism – anything but this,” Rachel confirms.
Like most partners, she initially didn’t buy into the concept of sex addiction (“it sounded like a pretty weak excuse for an affair”) and even when she did start to believe that her husband’s behaviour was compulsive, her friends didn’t (“they’d look at me in despair, asking since when had sexual desire became a monster that can’t be controlled”), leaving her feeling isolated.
That’s what you look for to tell someone is flirting with you.
Also self-disclosure — they tell you something about themselves.’‘British people don’t like intrusion, but they love to be talked to,’ says Jean. I teach you to break these unwritten rules about being polite which make it so hard to meet people.
On a wet Tuesday, I am hovering furtively in the fresh produce section of Sainsbury’s.