“If a kid is having a temper tantrum and throwing things, and then next time they have a tantrum but don’t throw anything, say ‘I’m really glad you didn't throw anything.’”The other evidence-based approach he recommends is taking something positive away.
For younger children, that can mean taking away a toy temporarily.
Lived experience tends to be more powerful than facts.
One of the few memories that many people retain from early childhood is times they were spanked.
Our job is just to provide them the evidence of what works, and what happens long-term.”This abdication of the moral high ground is principled.